
Six things no one tells you about becoming a leader
Becoming a leader for the first time can be isolating. Here’s what the management playbooks don’t tell you, and some advice on dealing with the new dynamic....

by Susan Goldsworthy Published July 2, 2025 in Brain Circuits • 3 min read
Human beings have two fundamental psychological needs: acceptance and achievement. When both are met, we feel grounded and can perform at a high level – we feel comfortable challenging and being challenged by others without acting defensively. Leaders can create this inclusive environment at an organizational level through a two-stage mindshift:
1. Think of yourself as a “coach” rather than a “manager”
The higher you climb up the leadership ladder, the more important it is to be curious, ask questions, and encourage others to share their thoughts and feelings.
2. Create a framework where people feel empowered to take risks
If we want innovation, we need to create inclusivity, so people feel psychologically safe to contribute their full potential without fear of retribution.
1. Develop awareness
Awareness of how we lead is critical. Often, we don’t stop to question long-held assumptions. Becoming aware that we may be acting defensively based on past behaviors is an important step toward a growth mindshift. This requires self-reflection, practicing mindfulness or breathwork, and soliciting feedback from others regarding how our behavior impacts those around us to gain awareness of how we lead.
2. Take responsibility
This is about recognizing that we have power to choose rather than falling into a state of victimhood. It involves embracing a more responsible and inclusive form of leadership. Underlying this is the concept of agency: we can all intervene in our habitual responses and choose an alternative approach.
3. Mind your language!
Think about the terminology you use: so much of the vocabulary of business is based on metaphors of machinery and warfare (think “engines of growth,” “key performance indicators,” or even “bullet points”). Shift to using language that connotates something positive.
4. Listen actively
Practice active listening by showing interest in others, tuning into their non-verbal signals, and giving them your undivided attention.
5. Reflect on your actions
Schedule time for a short daily reflection and ask yourself simple questions, such as, “When did I have a fixed mindset today, and why?” or “When did I have a growth mindshift, and why?”
Cultivating a growth mindshift is essential to create an environment where the fundamental psychological needs of individuals are met and they can perform at a high level.

Affiliate Professor of Leadership, Communications and Organizational Change at IMD
Susan Goldsworthy OLY is an Affiliate Professor of Leadership, Communications and Organizational Change at IMD. Co-author of three award-winning books, she is also an Olympic swimmer. She is a highly qualified executive coach and is trained in numerous psychometric assessments. She is Director of the IMD Executive Coaching Certificate and Program Director of the Leading Sustainable Change program.

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