Make decisions from a place of strength
In 2014, my first attempt, there was a terrible avalanche, in which 16 sherpas were killed and five of my teammates. I nearly died as well. I got edema, my body swelled up, and I stayed in the snow for 13 hours. I was rescued by helicopter – they found me alive in my sleeping bag among the dead bodies. I had a lot of surgery. I had lost my memory and didn’t know what had happened. But I wanted to be able to tell my students to keep moving and not to give up.
During my second attempt, in 2015, an earthquake hit base camp, killing at least 45 people. The Nepalese government closed the mountain to climbers.
After a disaster like that, you must decide whether to keep going or not. I never make decisions when I am not strong physically. After six months, I had returned to top physical strength but was still not mentally recovered. I had learned a very hard lesson: Survival of the fittest. The mountain will not be gentle to you because you are a woman, or older. That’s when I realized that I couldn’t think of myself as a woman, even when I was the only woman on the team. I had to be as strong as the sherpas. Everyone had to be equal.
From that point, I entered every sports competition I could find. I also tried to grab all the strongest men around me to be my teammates. I knew “If I’m not hard on myself, the mountain can be very scary.” And I kept going because I had made a commitment to my students.
In 2017, I successfully ascended Everest, and becoming the first Hong Kong woman to summit, there was the prospect of gaining sponsorship. But I did not want to have to put energy into anything other than climbing the mountain. I wanted to take responsibility for my own dream.