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by Robert Vilkelis, Francesca-Giulia Mereu Published April 29, 2026 in Brain Circuits ⢠6 min read
An American executive giving direct personal feedback in Japan isnât ârudeâ, but as experienced leaders know, such feedback may be culturally misaligned. Neurodivergence is the same: behaviors that seem âdifficultâ, âunfocusedâ or âabrasiveâ may simply reflect a different cognitive culture that most leaders, no matter how experienced, have never been taught to read. The cost of this misreading is real: friction, disengagement, and contributions that never get heard.
Instead of trying to diagnose behavior, design for difference.
One question changes the leadership conversation:
Instead of asking, âWhy are they doing this?â, ask: âWhat function might this behavior serve?â
This shift does not remove accountability. It rather refocuses it. Leaders distinguish more clearly between behavior that undermines outcomes and behavior that simply differs from expectation. Rather than triggering self-defense, feedback becomes more precise and lands better.
The broader implication is that high performance is built on alignment, not uniformity. When standards are defined around outcomes rather than behavioral norms, different working styles can happily coexist without compromising results.
Two people with the same diagnosis may present very differently. Labels can indicate patterns, yet they do not define how someone works. Instead of trying to diagnose behavior, design for difference:
Neurodivergence is not a performance issue: it is a translation gap, and translation is a leadership skill. The same decoding that helps a leader read a neurodivergent colleague serves them equally to attune to individual and situational differences. When leaders shift from judging behavior to treating it as a culture worth understanding, richer collaboration emerges.

Robert Vilkelis is an education professionalâŻwith a track record ofâŻdesigning and delivering large-scale learning experiencesâŻthat prioritize scalable structure and the people at its core. He has managed complex operations, led multi-layered teams, and driven measurable improvements in learner satisfaction, retention, and impact across international English camps and EdTech spaces.

Executive coach
FrancescaâGiulia Mereu is an executive coach with over 25 yearsâ experience, specializing in personal energy management and leadership transition. She is the author of Recharge Your Batteries, a certified yoga teacher, and creator of the popular âEnergy Checkâ online tool. She coaches senior leaders at IMD and through CCHN, the Center of Competence on Humanitarian Negotiation. She shares more energy-focused posts via her LinkedIn private group.

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Robert Vilkelis is an education professionalâŻwith a track record ofâŻdesigning and delivering large-scale learning experiencesâŻthat prioritize scalable structure and the people at its core. He has managed complex operations, led multi-layered teams, and driven measurable improvements in learner satisfaction, retention, and impact across international English camps and EdTech spaces.

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FrancescaâGiulia Mereu is an executive coach with over 25 yearsâ experience, specializing in personal energy management and leadership transition. She is the author of Recharge Your Batteries, a certified yoga teacher, and creator of the popular âEnergy Checkâ online tool. She coaches senior leaders at IMD and through CCHN, the Center of Competence on Humanitarian Negotiation. She shares more energy-focused posts via her LinkedIn private group.

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