The coaching journey
Susan and her coach agree that she has a primary goal: to let go and allow other people to step up to responsibilities. To help Susan build towards this goal, the coach supports Susan to take the conscious decision to divide her challenges into two camps: internal and external.
As they talk, it emerges that Susan makes better decisions â she is better able to delegate, for instance â when she is in good shape, mentally and psychologically. This helps Susan prioritize activities that nourish these internal needs, such as taking regular Pilates classes and spending time with her family and friends. Susan takes the initiative to create a self-care calendar and stick with a âmeâ regime, no matter how tempting it is to forego personal time for business needs. Her coach helps her deal with this tendency. Whenever she thinks âIâm too busy with work to be with loved ones or take some exercise,â she purposefully tells herself something helpful: âIf I feel this way, I need personal time more than ever.â
Externally, Susanâs coach encourages her to take a brave step. She is asked to intentionally develop deeper relationships with an inner circle of confidants at work: colleagues who have always shown a willingness to offer support, but from whom she has never asked for help. This is new to Susan, but she goes about identifying individuals that she knows will be able to assist in mobilizing team members to raise their game and operate at the peak performance levels that she needs. Her coach reminds her to watch for her knee-jerk reactions and to purposefully allow these trusted colleagues to help take on more responsibility.
Slowly, Susan finds herself moving out of her self-imposed isolation. She begins to feel calmer, more centered, and better able to take the captainâs perch. Instead of getting trapped in the weeds of day-to-day operations, she is increasingly focusing on the bigger-picture strategy and the vision she hopes to achieve at the helm of her organization.