Master childhood emotions to become a better leader
We are all at the mercy of behaviors ingrained from our earliest years. Nik Kinley and Shlomo Ben-Hur offer practical steps to help you identify and overcome your emotions to reach your...
by George Kohlrieser Published 23 March 2022 in Magazine ⢠5 min read ⢠Audio available
The world is becoming increasingly polarized as the disruption wrought by the financial crisis and the pandemic pushes people into opposing camps. Yet if we are going to solve our most pressing problems â the climate emergency, gaping inequality and social unrest â we are going to have to learn to listen to the other side. Negotiating tactics provide us with a toolkit to start a constructive dialogue and resolve conflict â whether you may be dealing with a customer complaint, a tricky supplier, or a hostile takeover bid.
The first step is to view negotiation as a relationship not a transaction. Many organizational and political leaders donât take the time to build a relationship first, instead moving to the bargaining phase too soon. This is a mistake. By respecting the other partyâs motivations and opinions and showing empathy, you have a good foundation for dialogue. What made Mikhail Gorbachev, the former president of the Soviet Union, and former US President Ronald Reagan successful, was their ability to build a bond, respect each other and find the common goal for the concessions for nuclear disarmament.
This applies to the corporate world, too. One reason for the success of the 2006 merger of The Walt Disney Company and the computer animation studio Pixar was the tone set in early negotiations. Despite being the stronger party, Disneyâs people listened to their counterparts at Pixar, accepting its employment conditions, which helped retain talent, while Disney CEO Bob Iger also reportedly asked Pixar employees how to improve Disney. Over the next decade, Pixar added significant value to Disney by helping improve computer-generated animations for the whole group.
Itâs important to move away from a win-lose model of negotiation and seek a mutual gains approach. Be open and curious about what you can learn from the other side. By adopting a positive mindset and establishing trust, you can override the brainâs natural urge to search for negativity. A CEO at a big pharmaceutical company urged his staff to start viewing the Food and Drugs Administration as partners rather than the enemy, by acknowledging that the regulator might know more about their medicines than the company itself. Good disagreement often leads to better results by establishing a shared problem-solving relationship.
Haier, the Chinese multinational home appliances group, has managed to innovate and take advantage of the Internet of Things by viewing its partners as idea-laden co-creators rather than just vendors. Central to this is Haierâs willingness to share the value created, rather than limit the fees paid to suppliers. The group purposefully grows the partnership for the benefit of all involved, rather than maximizing the profit gained by the most powerful partner, enabling Haier to build healthier ecosystems and in turn giving it a competitive advantage.Â
Take time to listen to the pain points that are motivating your counterpartâs behavior and blocking any move towards concessions. Be willing to talk about the losses â past, present, and anticipated â that may be influencing how you and your counterpart respond. These can include betrayal, ostracization, humiliation and lack of respect. Former German Chancellor Angela Merkel, a rational scientist by training, famously called out Russian President Vladimir Putin after he intimidated her during negotiations in 2007. Aware that Merkel had been afraid of dogs since childhood, Putin allowed his black Labrador to enter the room. Later, Merkel revealed a deep insight of her counterpartâs character. âI understand why he has to do this â to prove heâs a man,â she told reporters. âHeâs afraid of his own weakness. Russia has nothing, no successful politics or economy. All they have is this.â Â
Once you have understood the pain points and responded with empathy and respect, you have the foundations for shared problem-solving.
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Professor of Leadership and Organizational Behavior at IMD and Director of the High Performance Leadership program, the Advanced High Performance Leadership program and the Inspirational Leadership program, as well as co-Director of the Leading Under Pressure program. He serves as a consultant to several global companies including Accenture, Amer Sports, Borealis, Cisco, Coca-Cola, HP, Hitachi, IBM, IFC, Jaeger-LeCoultre, Morgan Stanley, Motorola, NASA, Navis, NestlĂŠ, Nokia, Pictet, Rio Tinto, Roche, Santander, Swarovski, Sara Lee, Tetra Pak, Toyota, and UBS.
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