If you answered ‘yes’ to most of these questions, it sounds like you’re resistant to change – there are areas of your life that you want to change but find yourself incapable of doing it. Discovering the root cause of this immunity to build an improvement pathway takes patience, practice, and in most cases, the supervision of trained professionals, but you can begin by going through the following steps:
Start by identifying and fine-tuning the “one big thing” you want to improve. This hinges on finding an improvement goal that hits home. For example, it could be the realization that you’re not emotionally present when you want to be. From this, you might formulate the following goal:
This step focuses on our actions (not attitudes) that keep us from our stated “one big thing”. Often, these saboteurs are productivity-related. Examples include:
These strategies underpin the unhealthy behaviors we find ourselves unable to change. They serve to shield our ego from harm and are challenging to dismantle. We can work to abstract them, but how we phrase them verbatim can be just as revealing. Examples include:
Self-limiting beliefs are informed by things such as our interpersonal relationships and are driven by our need to be seen in a certain way by others (even if this entails other negative consequences). This process is not voluntary, but what is voluntary is noticing your limiting patterns and, in so doing, being granted access to the root cause of your immunity.
You cannot think your way past your immunities. Instead, to transition to systems of greater mental complexity, autonomy, and leadership prowess, you have to change your behavior, go against what your habits dictate, and notice what happens to the world around you.
16 hours ago • by Katharina Lange in Brain Circuits
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